MERGING TIMES
A quick look into our past and we are all having mixed
feelings. We remember the good, the bad and the ugly, we remember the beautiful
times and depressing ones. Sometimes we even try to erase images of our past
but they just seem to stick. They seem to insist that they going nowhere, but
that would have not been much of a concern if they would stay out of my present,
my future and my life as a whole, but they always seem to even decide it and of
course with an ugly yesterday what we seem to get is a bad tomorrow. Depression
takes the other of it all, loneliness settles in comfort and our smile travels
not an inch beyond our epidermis. At times like this, people blank out on their
past, they try to do without it and anytime they get reminded, their life takes
a pause and once again there heart is smeared like the event just re-happened.
But then again I realized that your future is not only a
function of how you lived your past but also a function of how you used it. The
difference is simple; how you lived it is a function of what you did while your
past was present and how you used it refers to what you do with the memory of
your present when it becomes past. I then again realized that the present has
an equation, one that looks mathematical which is; past + future of past =
present. Don’t worry when this came to my head I wondered as well what it meant
but then I got an explanation so, wait for it, am going to explain this in very
simple and relatable terms.
Imagine today is a Wednesday, which means that we had Monday
which was two days ago and of cause Tuesday which was just yesterday and then
Wednesday which is today and also our present. We realize that the past two
days is our past but then again Tuesday was the past future of Monday. Now, I
then noticed that, Wednesday (present) is a function of the addition of
activities on Monday and on Tuesday. Let me create a picture of what I mean. You
went to see the doctor on Monday and then for some reason he booked another
appointment on Wednesday morning for you which was fine, since you didn’t have
anything planned for Wednesday morning. But then on Tuesday morning, your boss
asked that you represent him in a meeting which would hold on Wednesday morning
and probably end shortly before noon. By natural instinct you realize that you
can’t get to see your doctor and attend the meeting all on Wednesday morning
which was as at Tuesday the present, at that point you can decide to call your
doctor to see you for 2pm and that way you will have added Tuesday(50%) +
Monday(50%) and get your Wednesday activity so although you lived Monday to get
you a Wednesday appointment you calculated Tuesdays activity which infringed on
Mondays own to get yourself an altered but fulfilled Wednesday. But you had an
option to blank out Monday and just answer your boss, which would have been;
Past (0%) + Future of past (100%) = Present. Now I really hope you got that, if
not you will have to wait till I teach this topic in person.
What am trying to say in essence though is that no matter how
ugly your past is, you can decide to compromise the details you remember and
spare yourself the stress of a ruined future from a broken past. I have
realized that no matter how badly or rightly you lived your past, you are
always left with a double sided coin on how to use it. In essence you can decide to pick up the lessons you learnt,
balance it up with your goals for your tomorrow and then get a better today or
then again you can decide to wallow in self pity, low self esteem, depression and finally a ruined today. The world
today is filled with people who made either of the choices. Joyce Meyer, a renowned
preacher and teacher of the bible was abused by her own father and also cheated
on and messed up by her first husband, none the lesson Meyer didn’t stop there,
she picked up herself every time she fell, dusted herself clean, learnt her
lessons and then moved on. So now her life is not a function of ruined past but
applied lessons of her dark past also she has helped to teach millions of
people to realize this. Meyer herself has no grieve discussing with the press or
even on the pulpit her past for as long as she’s touching lives as she has
successfully merged the times together and now has an enviable today.
In essence, don’t be quick to
call it quit, don’t be quick to think you lost to that abuse or accident,
relationship or academic failure, death of a loved one or whatsoever makes you put
up pity parties every now and then. Instead, get to work with the mathematics
find out what you did wrong or what you didn’t do at all, lessons that you
could learn and of it all which I believe is most fulfilling, lives you could
impact and touch teaching and mentoring them on how you didn’t think it was
over even if seemed very so.
Thank You and God Bless You for
reading.
I Love You.
